Today we are going to talk about a two things: Approval seeking behaviors and putting your girlfriend high up there (on a pedestal)
- Approval seeking
Constantly asking your girlfriend if this is okay, or if that is okay is a big no no. You are a man with your own problems and should be able to take care of your own conflicts. One of the most attractive traits of a masculine man is to be Self-assured. To be self-assured is to not compromise your own opinions to fit in. Believe in the power of your own opinions and protect them. Being externally validation savvy is a big red flag to women. It shows them that you have low self esteem (confidence). Women want a man who is self-reliant, once again going back to the animal instinct: women are attracted to a man who would be a good care-giver for their child (they do not consciously think this, however, this is what they are attracted to).
- Putting your girlfriend high up there (on a pedestal)
Women want a man with his own needs, his own responsibilities besides them. If you put your girlfriend ahead of your needs she will lose respect for you and ultimately break up with you because of loss of attraction. You want to show your girlfriend that you have shit to get done too. You really like her, however, being in a relationship does not mean losing touch with the world (friends, jobs, responsibilities). Furthermore, putting your girlfriend on a pedestal will make you become to emotionally involved, and eventually when she brings down the hammer you will be crushed. Not putting your girlfriend on a pedestal protects you from being extremely broken heart-ed to the point where your life gets put on hold.
***next topic is arguing, learning what to do and what not to do.***