Tell me if this sounds familiar: Friday morning your boy calls you and says, ” yo man let’s hangout at the pub tonight.” You reply with “HELL YEAH!!!”. So now it’s Friday night your a little drunk with your buddies and your phone rings. It’s your girlfriend.. you forgot plans you made with her just the day before. This is where a Twix bar would really come in handy.. but with my help you don’t need time to think you just do.
First off. Never apologize for your actions.
Bad: “I’m so so so sorry i forgot plans with you tonight please forgive me, OH COME ON it was a mistake.” This is a terrible way to go because your reminding her what you did and two your getting mad because she isn’t forgiving you.
Good: “O my gosh I’m so sorry, It really wasn’t my intention to make you feel like i was ditching you or something. (Disqualify yourself) Ugh I can’t believe I would forget about plans with my own girlfriend, unbelievable. I’m coming over now so we can talk, I’ll call you when i get there (hangup).” Why is this good? In this situation it is okay to put her needs before yours however ONLY in this instance where you royally mess up. Notice how i didn’t really focus on what this person did, I used language that conveyed that i understood the FEELINGS she was feeling at the time. Remember women are emotional creatures, focusing on emotions any time you feel tension in your relationship is the number one way to deal with your woman or any woman for that matter. Secondly, you said “here I’ll come over so we can talk”. You are showing two traits right now that are very important. One: self confidence (you have the balls to own up to your mistake and fix it) and two: you are not asking for her approval. Notice I didn’t say “can i come over so we can talk about it?”. You are a man who knows what to do, a man who doesn’t need his girlfriends approval on anything(very important), but above all you need to stay calm, collective, and self-controlled when dealing with any kind of situation where you feel tension so hot in the air you could cut it with a knife..
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So what have we learned today? One, focus on her feelings. Two, do not ask for approval. Three, keep your cool at all times.
My name is Aidan Stone and you have just been SCHOOLED (: