How to apologize while keeping your dignity

Tell me if this sounds familiar:  Friday morning your boy calls you and says, ” yo man let’s hangout at the pub tonight.”  You reply with “HELL YEAH!!!”.  So now it’s Friday night your a little drunk with your buddies and your phone rings.  It’s your girlfriend.. you forgot plans you made with her just the day before.  This is where a Twix bar would really come in handy.. but with my help you don’t need time to think you just do.

First off.  Never apologize for your actions. 

Bad: “I’m so so so sorry i forgot plans with you tonight please forgive me, OH COME ON it was a mistake.”  This is a terrible way to go because your reminding her what you did and two your getting mad because she isn’t forgiving you.

Good: “O my gosh I’m so sorry, It really wasn’t my intention to make you feel like i was ditching you or something. (Disqualify yourself) Ugh I can’t believe I would forget about plans with my own girlfriend, unbelievable. I’m coming over now so we can talk, I’ll call you when i get there (hangup).”  Why is this good?  In this situation it is okay to put her needs before yours however ONLY in this instance where you royally mess up.  Notice how i didn’t really focus on what this person did, I used language that conveyed that i understood the FEELINGS she was feeling at the time.  Remember women are emotional creatures, focusing on emotions any time you feel tension in your relationship is the number one way to deal with your woman or any woman for that matter.  Secondly, you said “here I’ll come over so we can talk”.  You are showing two traits right now that are very important.  One: self confidence (you have the balls to own up to your mistake and fix it) and two: you are not asking for her approval.  Notice I didn’t say “can i come over so we can talk about it?”.  You are a man who knows what to do, a man who doesn’t need his girlfriends approval on anything(very important), but above all you need to stay calm, collective, and self-controlled when dealing with any kind of situation where you feel tension so hot in the air you could cut it with a knife..

**if you have any questions about specific fights comment below with your email and i will assist you***

So what have we learned today?  One, focus on her feelings.  Two, do not ask for approval.  Three, keep your cool at all times.

My name is Aidan Stone and you have just been SCHOOLED (:

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Rules for arguing with women

Question to all bloggers and viewers… have you personally, as a man, ever won an argument with a women?

If your answer is yes, your lying your ass off.  Come on now.  When is the last time you have ever heard of a man winning an argument with his women?  Almost Never!  One of the main reasons is because when men argue their heart rate builds, veins pop out, and they go ballistic on their girl making it so easy for their women to make you look terrible.  An attractive trait; self control.  Having control over your emotions is key when battling with women.  Which brings me to rule number one.

Yes, it is literally that simple.  Raising your voice, throwing shit, breaking shit is a no no.  It will only show that you have no self control and ultimately give her the avenue to make you look terrible.  If it is something stupid; treat it as something stupid.  Look at her with a crazy stare like “is she really babbling about this?”(pretend she is a quacking duck or another funny face).  If it is something really really really stupid: Tell her you find her unattractive at the moment, because she is babbling about the silliest thing.  She will likely stop acting crazy because women are all about self-appearance (hair, make-up, etc.).  Telling her that her behavior is unattractive to you will shut her down speechless, however, if there is really something bothering her then let her vent.  But make sure it is known that you want to conduct this talk in a mature manner with no crazy yelling or things along the like involved.

  • Rule #2 If you lose your self-control SHE AUTOMATICALLY WINS

You absolutely need to control your emotions when dealing with women.  Act cool and calm at all times.  Women are emotional creatures and have  a much easier time arguing in a heightened stance (when the shit hits the fan).

  • Rule #3 Be open minded

If your girlfriend (or any women for that matter) has a really good point, do not deny or act stubborn just because you do not want to be wrong.  Be a man and admit your faults, it takes a true person to admit when they are wrong and ultimately shows character.

  • Rule #4 Focus on her emotions when arguing                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Emphasize her emotions, the way she is feeling.  Men naturally want to fix the situation because face it that’s how we are.  We see a problem, fix it.  WRONG (with dealing women anyway).  Say something like “I totally understand why your feeling that way” and continue from there.  You barely have to fix anything!  Just talk about how she is feeling at the moment.

– Aidan

***next topic: how to apologize while being a self respectable man***