Getting Your Ex Back Starts the Moment You Break Up

There seems to be some misconceptions on the “How to get your ex-girlfriend back P1 & P2”.  The title is not some mumbo jumbo that I made up.  The moment you and your girlfriend break it off is the moment you need to start behaving in a different manner.  The comments I have been getting are asking me how to get the ex back when (1) It has been a month or two or (2) She is already dating someone else.  I am a cut and dry type of guy so I am just going to come out and say this.  I AM NOT A MIRACLE WORKER.  If you are still crying over an ex months later you need to reorganize yourself and your ideals.  You need to start realizing what you appear to be on the outside: how people view you.  If your ex starts dating another guy this should be a sign that you need to move on, which is the trick to getting your girlfriend back in the first place.  “Women want the man who can get over them before they do”.  This is not a joke!  You need to reassess yourself and stop worrying about what she is doing.  “Stop worrying about what other people’s actions are; the only person you can control is yourself, and sometimes you can not even control that!”.  MOVE ON AND SHE WILL COME BACK TO YOU.  Trust me.  I cannot stress this enough.  This is the type of bullshit that I am talking about with men these days.  Women are starting to take control which is why I made this blog in the first place.  This website is not for you to cry to me and beg me for a solution to a problem that does not need a solution!   Be a MAN and move on.  If you are going to comment my blog and give me a sob story you do not belong here.  Go cry to your mom if that is the type of man you are.  Instead of telling me some sob story ask me “how do I move on Aidan?”.  By moving on she will come running back to you.  It is that simple.  1.  Do not initiate contact ever (it is okay for her to contact you).  2.  Move on with your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself, because when it comes down to it YOU are the only one that has control of your destiny.  If your going to cry about every girl that breaks up with you then you will ultimately fail in life, and in relationships. 

 

Men.  I apologize for going on a rant, but the truth hurts.  It hurts for a reason, and that’s because you want to pretend that there is a way.  Well there isn’t!  Follow my instructions on how to move on and that is all.  You need to actually read what I am saying to get anything out of it.  Good luck. 

Aidan

How To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back P2

Trust me When I Say:  It is good to let it out.  Mature Masculine Men know when to cry, when to laugh, and when to love.  Talk to a friend, or listen to music that speaks to you.  This song speaks to me… Your not alone, I promise. 

Hello, welcome to relationshiphelpformen.com.  Today we are going to go a little more in depth on the topic of  “How To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back”, a topic that I consider to be my expertise.  Getting your ex-girlfriend back, however, is not the only thing I am concerned with.  One of the attributes I want you to gain and take advantage of during this break-up period is the feeling of what it is like to be independent.  If you learn to be strong over this period there will be no break-up in the future that will “bring you down”.  Of course there will always be sadness in any break-ups you have had; learning how to be independent  will give you resilience.  Your life will not completely shut down, just because of a broken heart (much like a lot of people). This has personally been one of the hardest times in my life.  When I was in 10th grade I met the most beautiful girl and immediately fell for her.  We ended up dating all the way until my senior year(she left me for someone else).  I was crushed.  During high school I was a little bit weird.  I played trombone (concert, jazz), played in football, wrestling, and track, and was a 4.0 student.  My senior year was the worst year of my entire life.  I prayed everyday for graduation because I couldn’t focus anymore.  I went from being 12th in my class to 25th… my grades suffered, I quit every sport.  It was terrible.  However, I took advantage of this experience and learned how to be stronger.  After high school I attended Lehigh University and was back to the me I remembered.  [Moral of the Story]As you can see break-ups can destroy people’s lives IF THEY LET THAT HAPPEN.

Today I am going to go a little more in depth on the first part of the break-up: what to do first, how to deal with it.  You see, immediately after the break-up you have begun to “get her back”.  This is all about how you behave boys.  Remember women want a mentally strong man to take care of their animal instinct issues.  If she breaks up with you hard (you know what I mean) cut off all contact.

Remove her from every social networking site, email, instant messaging, skype… anything.  Only exception is facebook.  If she blocks you that’s fine too.. trust me she is going to be looking at your facebook.

Write her number down somewhere and completely forget about it.  Then delete her number from your phone.  If you have memorized this number that is okay, still delete her number from your phone.

You MUST RESIST the urge to call her, text her, go to her work, anything.  You absolutely must follow the “No Contact” Rule.  I recommend to most people that all they have to do is follow this rule and usually I’m right!   By not contacting her you are showing her that you are okay with the break-up.  You are making her think “Well maybe he got a new girl”  (This could take up to 3 weeks of no contact).  Once she reaches this point of jealous thinking she will begin to feel lonely.  She will want to talk to you in the worst way.  This is when she will likely look at your facebook because she is wondering what your doing without her.  Women actually believe (and want) that you should be crying for days, they want you to be miserable as sad as it is.  When your not showing that your upset, and express that your moving on just fine from the break-up they usually feel a rush of attraction towards you again.  Which is why she broke-up with you to begin with.  Other reasons she might break-up with you : cheating, controlling behavior, yelling at her which we will talk about later.

Now, what NOT to do with your facebook account in a nut shell.

– Don’t be a prick

–  Do not purposely come up with these status’s about how many girls your with, partying, how many girls your banging.  We just want to make her jealous, not extremely pissed that your having sex with millions of girls.

–  Now it is completely appropriate and required of you to flirt with other women.  Flirt in real life, and on facebook.  It will boost your self-confidence.  Just act friendly, do not blatantly act like your TRYING to make your ex jealous.  Just act as if she is a friend.

–  NO SAD STATUS’S.. PERIOD

–  You need to appear that you are okay.  To do this you just post status’s of you having normal fun (not so much partying, or having sex, or doing drugs).  A good way to make her jealous is to go out to breakfast with 3 girls and one other dude.  Post who your with and where your going and your SOLID.  Your implying them as friends so when she eventually calls you and asks what you were doing you just say “they are just friends”.  She doesn’t control you, you can do whatever the heck you want to.

The Next step is previously listed in the How To Get Your Ex Back category.  Follow this guide http://relationshiphelpformen.com/2012/05/25/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back/

What If She Does Not Contact You? 

This is not very common but if you have to contact your girlfriend first here is what you have to do.

Step 1:  Call her, Write her a letter, contact her.

Step 2: After you have reached her, just act cool, calm, and completely okay with the break-up.  I think you should even go as far as to tell her that.  “I think this break-up was for the best, but I don’t want to lose you as a friend.  We used to be good friends, and I want to remain on good terms with you.”  You don’t have to say this exactly but you get the idea.

Step 3:  If you talked to her in a friendly manner and no sexual intentions were implied then you can now successfully swoop in under her scope as a “friend”.

The Finish Line. 

Now after you have followed http://relationshiphelpformen.com/2012/05/25/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back/ you can just be chill.  Remain cool, calm , and collective at all times.  Let her do all the work.. let her chase you.  Your in control now.  If she doesn’t call you be patient.  Women don’t want to seem desperate by calling you back the next day.. Everything should be okay if you have followed the rules and steps I have outlined.   Good luck to you, I know you can do it.  Remember You Are A Dominant Man.. make her feel like a women.

 

– Aidan

 

 

How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

Hello! Today we are going to layout the basic plan to get back your ex girlfriend back (yes there’s a plan, have you ever done something time consuming without a plan?). First off, I would like you right now (YES RIGHT NOW) to ask yourself “Why did my girlfriend break up with me?”  I bet you a million dollars what you just told yourself was a bunch of mumbo jumbo she made up huh?  The reason she left you is simply because she began to feel un-attracted to you.  The reason she began to feel un-attracted to you was because you stopped displaying the attractive traits I have outlined in previous posts [How to attract women].  Did you feel your girlfriend becoming more and more dominant towards the end of your relationship?  It is because you stopped showing the attractive traits that she first saw; when you first took her breathe away.  Oh and by the way pat yourself on the back.  Your girlfriend was attracted to you on a strong physiological basis. Which tells me that getting her back, given you follow my plan, is going to be easier than you may think.

The One and Only Rule You Must Follow

1.)  THE NO CONTACT RULE

Step one:

Block All Communication

–  Yes.  Don’t call her, don’t beg, don’t cry to her.. all your doing is pushing her away even farther. 

–         If she is calling you, tell her you need space. “It hurts to much to talk to you” usually works fine. 

–         You must absolutely follow rule #1 or else getting her back will be incredibly hard

–         The reason rule #1 works so well is because when you do not contact her you are showing her that you are better without her.  You’re displaying a trait that shows you’re a strong man which she is attracted to.  Girls want the boyfriends that get over them faster than they do… makes no sense right?  Trust me I know. 

Step Two:

Gather Up All Her Stuff

          –  Gather every single object, physical things, clothes, posters, and blankets, anything you can touch that reminds you of your girlfriend. 

          –  Put her things in a box.  Leave it with a close friend, don’t let it be close to you in anyway because I really don’t want you going to the box and crying over her old things. 

Step Three:

Get your Confidence UPPPPPP

          –  Go out and give yourself a completely new look; New haircut, new clothes, new cologne, new shoes, a new damn you. 

         –  I really don’t care what you do to yourself; just make sure you look amazing. 

          –  Get a membership to a gym or go running.  You need to workout; it sends chemicals around your body that actually make you feel good

Step Four:

Go on dates

          –  Yes, in order to get your girlfriend back you need to first rid yourself of all of those characteristics which are bad [ Insecurity Category]. 

          –  You need to learn how to lead again.  You need to get back the you that you were when she first met you, that confident, leading, mature, masculine man. 

         –  To do this, you need to study “How to attract women”.  Then you need to follow all of the steps to their fullest.  Go on these dates to get your confidence up.  It doesn’t matter if it’s not going to be a real thing, you will be feeling much better about yourself. 

Step Five:

Let her come to you. 

          –  She will likely call you asking you to give the relationship another chance after you follow these steps

 

Attention:  This is a general guide.  If you have any specific questions go ahead and comment them.  I do not mind helping you in anyway. 

– Aidan