Cheating…Cheater and Cheatee Guide

English: Woman, broken heart.

English: Woman, broken heart. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

First, before we get to the “how-to get out of trouble” lesson I want you to ask yourself.  If your going to be in a relationship then be in a relationship.  If your going to mess around while your with someone you could end up really hurting them.  Not only that but now you get the reputation as a player and a cheater.  Once your flagged consider yourself dateless for quite some time.  It is a very very good idea to not cheat plain and simple.

 

You cheated on your girlfriend

–  Sometimes your drunk and you make-out with a girl.  This is not that terrible although it is still cheating.  Furthermore, alcohol is NO EXCUSE to cheat on anyone.

– If any of my viewers have ever noticed… when a guy tells a girl he cheated they usually want to know if he has feelings for this new girl.  However if a guy gets cheated on they usually want to know what they did sexually…

Step one:  Amplify her feelings

Tell her straight up that you messed up and had no intention of hurting her.  Tell her that you have absolutely no feelings for this girl and even go as far to say cheating made me realize what I had and I really do not want to lose you.  Trust me these work.  Your going to be annoyed for the next couple of months (depending on the severity of the adultery) by her because women, unfortunately, take time to get over things.  Give her as long as she needs and you better be there for her every time.  Do not be selfish.. put yourself in her shoes.  What if you got cheated on ?

Your Girlfriend Cheated On You

I know this is probably not going to brighten your day but you absolutely need to break-up with her immediately.  This is one of my personal boundaries.  You need to think of cheating as a way to filter out girls that are not for you.  You deserve better than a cheating chick..

Story:

My high-school sweet-heart made me regret ever taking back someone who cheated on you.  I loved her so much that I didn’t want to lose her.  I just forgave her and basically sent the message that it was okay for her to do what she did.  She ended up breaking up with me anyway because saying that the reason she cheated was because of me.  I was crushed.  I learned my lesson that day.

 

You see women cheat because they become un-attracted to you.  When they see you crying all the time when you took them back after they cheated they become even more un-attracted to you.  By breaking up with them it sets up a much better scenario for you and puts you in control.  You can play hard to get so badly that she turns into your personal slave…  but remember you have to act cool calm and collective.  If you ignore her she will probably make fun of you for being immature.  You need to resist this, it might piss you off but you must send the message that you will not be talked to like that.

 

So remember boys DO NOT CHEAT.  It’s not worth it.

-Aidan

 

 

 

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How To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back P2

Trust me When I Say:  It is good to let it out.  Mature Masculine Men know when to cry, when to laugh, and when to love.  Talk to a friend, or listen to music that speaks to you.  This song speaks to me… Your not alone, I promise. 

Hello, welcome to relationshiphelpformen.com.  Today we are going to go a little more in depth on the topic of  “How To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back”, a topic that I consider to be my expertise.  Getting your ex-girlfriend back, however, is not the only thing I am concerned with.  One of the attributes I want you to gain and take advantage of during this break-up period is the feeling of what it is like to be independent.  If you learn to be strong over this period there will be no break-up in the future that will “bring you down”.  Of course there will always be sadness in any break-ups you have had; learning how to be independent  will give you resilience.  Your life will not completely shut down, just because of a broken heart (much like a lot of people). This has personally been one of the hardest times in my life.  When I was in 10th grade I met the most beautiful girl and immediately fell for her.  We ended up dating all the way until my senior year(she left me for someone else).  I was crushed.  During high school I was a little bit weird.  I played trombone (concert, jazz), played in football, wrestling, and track, and was a 4.0 student.  My senior year was the worst year of my entire life.  I prayed everyday for graduation because I couldn’t focus anymore.  I went from being 12th in my class to 25th… my grades suffered, I quit every sport.  It was terrible.  However, I took advantage of this experience and learned how to be stronger.  After high school I attended Lehigh University and was back to the me I remembered.  [Moral of the Story]As you can see break-ups can destroy people’s lives IF THEY LET THAT HAPPEN.

Today I am going to go a little more in depth on the first part of the break-up: what to do first, how to deal with it.  You see, immediately after the break-up you have begun to “get her back”.  This is all about how you behave boys.  Remember women want a mentally strong man to take care of their animal instinct issues.  If she breaks up with you hard (you know what I mean) cut off all contact.

Remove her from every social networking site, email, instant messaging, skype… anything.  Only exception is facebook.  If she blocks you that’s fine too.. trust me she is going to be looking at your facebook.

Write her number down somewhere and completely forget about it.  Then delete her number from your phone.  If you have memorized this number that is okay, still delete her number from your phone.

You MUST RESIST the urge to call her, text her, go to her work, anything.  You absolutely must follow the “No Contact” Rule.  I recommend to most people that all they have to do is follow this rule and usually I’m right!   By not contacting her you are showing her that you are okay with the break-up.  You are making her think “Well maybe he got a new girl”  (This could take up to 3 weeks of no contact).  Once she reaches this point of jealous thinking she will begin to feel lonely.  She will want to talk to you in the worst way.  This is when she will likely look at your facebook because she is wondering what your doing without her.  Women actually believe (and want) that you should be crying for days, they want you to be miserable as sad as it is.  When your not showing that your upset, and express that your moving on just fine from the break-up they usually feel a rush of attraction towards you again.  Which is why she broke-up with you to begin with.  Other reasons she might break-up with you : cheating, controlling behavior, yelling at her which we will talk about later.

Now, what NOT to do with your facebook account in a nut shell.

– Don’t be a prick

–  Do not purposely come up with these status’s about how many girls your with, partying, how many girls your banging.  We just want to make her jealous, not extremely pissed that your having sex with millions of girls.

–  Now it is completely appropriate and required of you to flirt with other women.  Flirt in real life, and on facebook.  It will boost your self-confidence.  Just act friendly, do not blatantly act like your TRYING to make your ex jealous.  Just act as if she is a friend.

–  NO SAD STATUS’S.. PERIOD

–  You need to appear that you are okay.  To do this you just post status’s of you having normal fun (not so much partying, or having sex, or doing drugs).  A good way to make her jealous is to go out to breakfast with 3 girls and one other dude.  Post who your with and where your going and your SOLID.  Your implying them as friends so when she eventually calls you and asks what you were doing you just say “they are just friends”.  She doesn’t control you, you can do whatever the heck you want to.

The Next step is previously listed in the How To Get Your Ex Back category.  Follow this guide http://relationshiphelpformen.com/2012/05/25/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back/

What If She Does Not Contact You? 

This is not very common but if you have to contact your girlfriend first here is what you have to do.

Step 1:  Call her, Write her a letter, contact her.

Step 2: After you have reached her, just act cool, calm, and completely okay with the break-up.  I think you should even go as far as to tell her that.  “I think this break-up was for the best, but I don’t want to lose you as a friend.  We used to be good friends, and I want to remain on good terms with you.”  You don’t have to say this exactly but you get the idea.

Step 3:  If you talked to her in a friendly manner and no sexual intentions were implied then you can now successfully swoop in under her scope as a “friend”.

The Finish Line. 

Now after you have followed http://relationshiphelpformen.com/2012/05/25/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back/ you can just be chill.  Remain cool, calm , and collective at all times.  Let her do all the work.. let her chase you.  Your in control now.  If she doesn’t call you be patient.  Women don’t want to seem desperate by calling you back the next day.. Everything should be okay if you have followed the rules and steps I have outlined.   Good luck to you, I know you can do it.  Remember You Are A Dominant Man.. make her feel like a women.

 

– Aidan

 

 

How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

Hello! Today we are going to layout the basic plan to get back your ex girlfriend back (yes there’s a plan, have you ever done something time consuming without a plan?). First off, I would like you right now (YES RIGHT NOW) to ask yourself “Why did my girlfriend break up with me?”  I bet you a million dollars what you just told yourself was a bunch of mumbo jumbo she made up huh?  The reason she left you is simply because she began to feel un-attracted to you.  The reason she began to feel un-attracted to you was because you stopped displaying the attractive traits I have outlined in previous posts [How to attract women].  Did you feel your girlfriend becoming more and more dominant towards the end of your relationship?  It is because you stopped showing the attractive traits that she first saw; when you first took her breathe away.  Oh and by the way pat yourself on the back.  Your girlfriend was attracted to you on a strong physiological basis. Which tells me that getting her back, given you follow my plan, is going to be easier than you may think.

The One and Only Rule You Must Follow

1.)  THE NO CONTACT RULE

Step one:

Block All Communication

–  Yes.  Don’t call her, don’t beg, don’t cry to her.. all your doing is pushing her away even farther. 

–         If she is calling you, tell her you need space. “It hurts to much to talk to you” usually works fine. 

–         You must absolutely follow rule #1 or else getting her back will be incredibly hard

–         The reason rule #1 works so well is because when you do not contact her you are showing her that you are better without her.  You’re displaying a trait that shows you’re a strong man which she is attracted to.  Girls want the boyfriends that get over them faster than they do… makes no sense right?  Trust me I know. 

Step Two:

Gather Up All Her Stuff

          –  Gather every single object, physical things, clothes, posters, and blankets, anything you can touch that reminds you of your girlfriend. 

          –  Put her things in a box.  Leave it with a close friend, don’t let it be close to you in anyway because I really don’t want you going to the box and crying over her old things. 

Step Three:

Get your Confidence UPPPPPP

          –  Go out and give yourself a completely new look; New haircut, new clothes, new cologne, new shoes, a new damn you. 

         –  I really don’t care what you do to yourself; just make sure you look amazing. 

          –  Get a membership to a gym or go running.  You need to workout; it sends chemicals around your body that actually make you feel good

Step Four:

Go on dates

          –  Yes, in order to get your girlfriend back you need to first rid yourself of all of those characteristics which are bad [ Insecurity Category]. 

          –  You need to learn how to lead again.  You need to get back the you that you were when she first met you, that confident, leading, mature, masculine man. 

         –  To do this, you need to study “How to attract women”.  Then you need to follow all of the steps to their fullest.  Go on these dates to get your confidence up.  It doesn’t matter if it’s not going to be a real thing, you will be feeling much better about yourself. 

Step Five:

Let her come to you. 

          –  She will likely call you asking you to give the relationship another chance after you follow these steps

 

Attention:  This is a general guide.  If you have any specific questions go ahead and comment them.  I do not mind helping you in anyway. 

– Aidan

The Reason Relationships End..

Why do relationships end?  “Love, with time, turns ugly”.  This quote has been used for centuries, however, it is not true.  Love will always be beautiful, it is the people who turn their relations with each other into hatred.  In my eyes there is no need for this hatred; even I have had my breakups but even now today I remain friends with all of my ex’s because there is no need to carry hatred in your heart.  [This comes from a great article http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/].  So why does something so beautiful at first have to have an end?

We live in a world where change is coming everyday.  For the first time in centuries women have the right to vote, women have the right to abort their pregnancies, women have the right to take birth control, and women are now a strong part of the workforce.  You see as time goes on, women are starting to become more masculine while men are becoming more feminine which is causing most of the break-ups in this world today.

Introducing: Male and Female Polarity (The relative orientation of poles; the direction of a magnetic or electric field) aka The Key To Lasting Attraction

The definition above maybe unclear to some.  It basically means the attraction of males and females.  As I have said before women will always be attracted to a masculine man because that trait makes women feel feminine.  The more you make her feel feminine the stronger the attraction for you will grow.

So to answer the question above: Why do most relationships end?

[For those who have dealt with being broken up with]

  • Were you acting more and more submissive in arguments?
  • Did you feel that your girlfriend had dominance over you by the way she behaved?
  • Did your girlfriend have a leash on you?
  • Did you feel controlled by your girlfriend at the time?

If you answer is yes to any of these questions you are probably realizing why you were broken up with.  Your women began to feel masculine because of the control over you that she had.  As a result, you began to feel feminine!  This opposition absolutely killed the attraction levels your girlfriend at the time had for you and thus, the relationship ended.

To avoid this, the man must assume the role he was born into.  He must be the dominant leader and by default the woman assumes the role of a follower; ultimately making her feel feminine.  There is no controlling behavior you must extend to force her into this position you simply must act as a mature, masculine man and she will automatically fall into place.  In the world we live in, masculine men are a dying breed and I’m here to repopulate the planet (:

If you have any questions or want to ask me specifically what went wrong with your previous relationship feel free to comment with your personal email and i will gladly email you (and delete your comment so you do not compromise your privacy).

Thanks for Reading!

– Aidan

Entering Into A Long Term Relationship [Boundaries are key]

If your looking for a successful relationship your already in the red zone.  It sounds counter intuitive, however, do not search; let that person find you.  All searching will do for you is let you find disappointment and no one likes that of course.  Instead of searching you need to first ask yourself a couple questions and then you will be able to sort through all of the women you meet.

1.) First question to ask yourself: What are qualities in a girl that you like/want to find..

My list would look something like this:

  • Funny
  • Likes to just go out and have a good time
  • Party girl
  • Down to earth
  • Layed back
  • Non-cheater
  • A person that is true to themselves

2.) Second question to ask yourself: Why are you searching for these qualities

My answer: I search for these qualities because this is how I am in a relationship, I am a chill boyfriend, almost care-free

3.) What are your fears of being in a relationship?

My answer: Being cheated on and being deceived

Okay so you have your list of what you want, now let that person come to you.  After they do come to you, all you have to do is act in an attractive manner.  To act in an attractive manner (we will get to these traits later) is quite simple.  Study the “Insecurity” category to know exactly what turns off women first.

How to transition into a relationship: Let the women decide that.  Trust me she will find a way.. and if your not that kind of type then go on a few dates and then just ask.. if she is willing to date you odds are she is willing to become your special someone.

After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them.  Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)

My list looks like this:

  • Lying to me
  • Cheating
  • Treating me with disrespect
  • Playing head games

Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.

These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship.  Women love to test us men.  It’s not their fault however, like i said women are attracted to behavior because their animal instinct tells them that a man that is strong emotionally is a good father.. this is why they test us.  You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section).  Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you.

Any further questions comment this post with your email and i will email you shortly.

Thanks for reading (:

-Aidan