Behavior in the Beginning = Behavior Throughout

In a post from last year I discuss boundaries that I recommend be set as early as possible:

After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them.  Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)

My list looks like this:

  • Lying to me
  • Cheating
  • Treating me with disrespect
  • Playing head games

Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.

These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship.  Women love to test us men.  Women are programmed to naturally want a man that will be a good father, because of animal instincts.  People neglect to realize that just because we have a large cerebral cortex compared to other animals does not mean that we are not animals too.  Society will always run in an instinctual way.  When women are looking for a husband they are looking for a man with dexterity.   In order for a man to be a good father he must be emotionally intact, and this is why it is not their fault.  You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section).  Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you.  Head my warning.  Don’t be a B***CH.

Bouncing off of boundaries – We are going to talk about how to act during the very beginning of the relationship.

It is incredibly important that you do not hide how you really are in public and behind closed doors.  It is necessary to act in your own way, and be comfortable with who you are as a person.  People commonly make this mistake.

For Example:  I meet this gorgeous girl, and I end up getting her number.  We continue to date for a period of time, and then I decide it is time I ask her if she wants a relationship with me.  From this moment on I decide to be the best boyfriend ever, and take her out to dinner at least once a week even though I can not afford to.  Two months pass by and I am running out of cash.  We end up not going out to dinner this weekend, but when I try to explain to my girlfriend that I can’t afford it she gets angry.  She is used to being courted and dressing up for me.  Next weekend the same occurs, and she starts equating this behavior as her own fault.  Problems will arise.

In this scenario I made a couple of big mistakes that insure that (1) This girl will eventually break up with me (2)  That I will be heart-broken and ultimately struggle with the balance of my life for some time period(t).  This type of meeting happens every day, and men are continuously being put down.  The funny part to all of this is that it is no ones’ fault except for the person who allowed this women to tear them down and put their life on hold.  You are in control of what happens to you, and the future that you will have.  Furthermore,  do not EVER “decide” to be a good boyfriend.  It will cause you to think and act in ways that appear needy and unattractive.  Instead, you must view yourself as a man with confidence, but do not fake confidence.  Women can sense it a mile away.  If you are a man that is having trouble getting women, the “How to get your Ex-Girlfriend Back” teaches you exactly how to behave to increase your confidence and gives you the ability to attract women.

 

Next week we are going to talk about a book called “The art of Seduction” and a few key points I would like to center on.  Stay tuned.

 

-Aidan

Cheating…Cheater and Cheatee Guide

English: Woman, broken heart.

English: Woman, broken heart. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

First, before we get to the “how-to get out of trouble” lesson I want you to ask yourself.  If your going to be in a relationship then be in a relationship.  If your going to mess around while your with someone you could end up really hurting them.  Not only that but now you get the reputation as a player and a cheater.  Once your flagged consider yourself dateless for quite some time.  It is a very very good idea to not cheat plain and simple.

 

You cheated on your girlfriend

–  Sometimes your drunk and you make-out with a girl.  This is not that terrible although it is still cheating.  Furthermore, alcohol is NO EXCUSE to cheat on anyone.

– If any of my viewers have ever noticed… when a guy tells a girl he cheated they usually want to know if he has feelings for this new girl.  However if a guy gets cheated on they usually want to know what they did sexually…

Step one:  Amplify her feelings

Tell her straight up that you messed up and had no intention of hurting her.  Tell her that you have absolutely no feelings for this girl and even go as far to say cheating made me realize what I had and I really do not want to lose you.  Trust me these work.  Your going to be annoyed for the next couple of months (depending on the severity of the adultery) by her because women, unfortunately, take time to get over things.  Give her as long as she needs and you better be there for her every time.  Do not be selfish.. put yourself in her shoes.  What if you got cheated on ?

Your Girlfriend Cheated On You

I know this is probably not going to brighten your day but you absolutely need to break-up with her immediately.  This is one of my personal boundaries.  You need to think of cheating as a way to filter out girls that are not for you.  You deserve better than a cheating chick..

Story:

My high-school sweet-heart made me regret ever taking back someone who cheated on you.  I loved her so much that I didn’t want to lose her.  I just forgave her and basically sent the message that it was okay for her to do what she did.  She ended up breaking up with me anyway because saying that the reason she cheated was because of me.  I was crushed.  I learned my lesson that day.

 

You see women cheat because they become un-attracted to you.  When they see you crying all the time when you took them back after they cheated they become even more un-attracted to you.  By breaking up with them it sets up a much better scenario for you and puts you in control.  You can play hard to get so badly that she turns into your personal slave…  but remember you have to act cool calm and collective.  If you ignore her she will probably make fun of you for being immature.  You need to resist this, it might piss you off but you must send the message that you will not be talked to like that.

 

So remember boys DO NOT CHEAT.  It’s not worth it.

-Aidan

 

 

 

Entering Into A Long Term Relationship [Boundaries are key]

If your looking for a successful relationship your already in the red zone.  It sounds counter intuitive, however, do not search; let that person find you.  All searching will do for you is let you find disappointment and no one likes that of course.  Instead of searching you need to first ask yourself a couple questions and then you will be able to sort through all of the women you meet.

1.) First question to ask yourself: What are qualities in a girl that you like/want to find..

My list would look something like this:

  • Funny
  • Likes to just go out and have a good time
  • Party girl
  • Down to earth
  • Layed back
  • Non-cheater
  • A person that is true to themselves

2.) Second question to ask yourself: Why are you searching for these qualities

My answer: I search for these qualities because this is how I am in a relationship, I am a chill boyfriend, almost care-free

3.) What are your fears of being in a relationship?

My answer: Being cheated on and being deceived

Okay so you have your list of what you want, now let that person come to you.  After they do come to you, all you have to do is act in an attractive manner.  To act in an attractive manner (we will get to these traits later) is quite simple.  Study the “Insecurity” category to know exactly what turns off women first.

How to transition into a relationship: Let the women decide that.  Trust me she will find a way.. and if your not that kind of type then go on a few dates and then just ask.. if she is willing to date you odds are she is willing to become your special someone.

After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them.  Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)

My list looks like this:

  • Lying to me
  • Cheating
  • Treating me with disrespect
  • Playing head games

Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.

These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship.  Women love to test us men.  It’s not their fault however, like i said women are attracted to behavior because their animal instinct tells them that a man that is strong emotionally is a good father.. this is why they test us.  You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section).  Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you.

Any further questions comment this post with your email and i will email you shortly.

Thanks for reading (:

-Aidan