Behavior in the Beginning = Behavior Throughout

In a post from last year I discuss boundaries that I recommend be set as early as possible:

After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them.  Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)

My list looks like this:

  • Lying to me
  • Cheating
  • Treating me with disrespect
  • Playing head games

Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.

These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship.  Women love to test us men.  Women are programmed to naturally want a man that will be a good father, because of animal instincts.  People neglect to realize that just because we have a large cerebral cortex compared to other animals does not mean that we are not animals too.  Society will always run in an instinctual way.  When women are looking for a husband they are looking for a man with dexterity.   In order for a man to be a good father he must be emotionally intact, and this is why it is not their fault.  You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section).  Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you.  Head my warning.  Don’t be a B***CH.

Bouncing off of boundaries – We are going to talk about how to act during the very beginning of the relationship.

It is incredibly important that you do not hide how you really are in public and behind closed doors.  It is necessary to act in your own way, and be comfortable with who you are as a person.  People commonly make this mistake.

For Example:  I meet this gorgeous girl, and I end up getting her number.  We continue to date for a period of time, and then I decide it is time I ask her if she wants a relationship with me.  From this moment on I decide to be the best boyfriend ever, and take her out to dinner at least once a week even though I can not afford to.  Two months pass by and I am running out of cash.  We end up not going out to dinner this weekend, but when I try to explain to my girlfriend that I can’t afford it she gets angry.  She is used to being courted and dressing up for me.  Next weekend the same occurs, and she starts equating this behavior as her own fault.  Problems will arise.

In this scenario I made a couple of big mistakes that insure that (1) This girl will eventually break up with me (2)  That I will be heart-broken and ultimately struggle with the balance of my life for some time period(t).  This type of meeting happens every day, and men are continuously being put down.  The funny part to all of this is that it is no ones’ fault except for the person who allowed this women to tear them down and put their life on hold.  You are in control of what happens to you, and the future that you will have.  Furthermore,  do not EVER “decide” to be a good boyfriend.  It will cause you to think and act in ways that appear needy and unattractive.  Instead, you must view yourself as a man with confidence, but do not fake confidence.  Women can sense it a mile away.  If you are a man that is having trouble getting women, the “How to get your Ex-Girlfriend Back” teaches you exactly how to behave to increase your confidence and gives you the ability to attract women.

 

Next week we are going to talk about a book called “The art of Seduction” and a few key points I would like to center on.  Stay tuned.

 

-Aidan

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Cheating…Cheater and Cheatee Guide

English: Woman, broken heart.

English: Woman, broken heart. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

First, before we get to the “how-to get out of trouble” lesson I want you to ask yourself.  If your going to be in a relationship then be in a relationship.  If your going to mess around while your with someone you could end up really hurting them.  Not only that but now you get the reputation as a player and a cheater.  Once your flagged consider yourself dateless for quite some time.  It is a very very good idea to not cheat plain and simple.

 

You cheated on your girlfriend

–  Sometimes your drunk and you make-out with a girl.  This is not that terrible although it is still cheating.  Furthermore, alcohol is NO EXCUSE to cheat on anyone.

– If any of my viewers have ever noticed… when a guy tells a girl he cheated they usually want to know if he has feelings for this new girl.  However if a guy gets cheated on they usually want to know what they did sexually…

Step one:  Amplify her feelings

Tell her straight up that you messed up and had no intention of hurting her.  Tell her that you have absolutely no feelings for this girl and even go as far to say cheating made me realize what I had and I really do not want to lose you.  Trust me these work.  Your going to be annoyed for the next couple of months (depending on the severity of the adultery) by her because women, unfortunately, take time to get over things.  Give her as long as she needs and you better be there for her every time.  Do not be selfish.. put yourself in her shoes.  What if you got cheated on ?

Your Girlfriend Cheated On You

I know this is probably not going to brighten your day but you absolutely need to break-up with her immediately.  This is one of my personal boundaries.  You need to think of cheating as a way to filter out girls that are not for you.  You deserve better than a cheating chick..

Story:

My high-school sweet-heart made me regret ever taking back someone who cheated on you.  I loved her so much that I didn’t want to lose her.  I just forgave her and basically sent the message that it was okay for her to do what she did.  She ended up breaking up with me anyway because saying that the reason she cheated was because of me.  I was crushed.  I learned my lesson that day.

 

You see women cheat because they become un-attracted to you.  When they see you crying all the time when you took them back after they cheated they become even more un-attracted to you.  By breaking up with them it sets up a much better scenario for you and puts you in control.  You can play hard to get so badly that she turns into your personal slave…  but remember you have to act cool calm and collective.  If you ignore her she will probably make fun of you for being immature.  You need to resist this, it might piss you off but you must send the message that you will not be talked to like that.

 

So remember boys DO NOT CHEAT.  It’s not worth it.

-Aidan

 

 

 

How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

Hello! Today we are going to layout the basic plan to get back your ex girlfriend back (yes there’s a plan, have you ever done something time consuming without a plan?). First off, I would like you right now (YES RIGHT NOW) to ask yourself “Why did my girlfriend break up with me?”  I bet you a million dollars what you just told yourself was a bunch of mumbo jumbo she made up huh?  The reason she left you is simply because she began to feel un-attracted to you.  The reason she began to feel un-attracted to you was because you stopped displaying the attractive traits I have outlined in previous posts [How to attract women].  Did you feel your girlfriend becoming more and more dominant towards the end of your relationship?  It is because you stopped showing the attractive traits that she first saw; when you first took her breathe away.  Oh and by the way pat yourself on the back.  Your girlfriend was attracted to you on a strong physiological basis. Which tells me that getting her back, given you follow my plan, is going to be easier than you may think.

The One and Only Rule You Must Follow

1.)  THE NO CONTACT RULE

Step one:

Block All Communication

–  Yes.  Don’t call her, don’t beg, don’t cry to her.. all your doing is pushing her away even farther. 

–         If she is calling you, tell her you need space. “It hurts to much to talk to you” usually works fine. 

–         You must absolutely follow rule #1 or else getting her back will be incredibly hard

–         The reason rule #1 works so well is because when you do not contact her you are showing her that you are better without her.  You’re displaying a trait that shows you’re a strong man which she is attracted to.  Girls want the boyfriends that get over them faster than they do… makes no sense right?  Trust me I know. 

Step Two:

Gather Up All Her Stuff

          –  Gather every single object, physical things, clothes, posters, and blankets, anything you can touch that reminds you of your girlfriend. 

          –  Put her things in a box.  Leave it with a close friend, don’t let it be close to you in anyway because I really don’t want you going to the box and crying over her old things. 

Step Three:

Get your Confidence UPPPPPP

          –  Go out and give yourself a completely new look; New haircut, new clothes, new cologne, new shoes, a new damn you. 

         –  I really don’t care what you do to yourself; just make sure you look amazing. 

          –  Get a membership to a gym or go running.  You need to workout; it sends chemicals around your body that actually make you feel good

Step Four:

Go on dates

          –  Yes, in order to get your girlfriend back you need to first rid yourself of all of those characteristics which are bad [ Insecurity Category]. 

          –  You need to learn how to lead again.  You need to get back the you that you were when she first met you, that confident, leading, mature, masculine man. 

         –  To do this, you need to study “How to attract women”.  Then you need to follow all of the steps to their fullest.  Go on these dates to get your confidence up.  It doesn’t matter if it’s not going to be a real thing, you will be feeling much better about yourself. 

Step Five:

Let her come to you. 

          –  She will likely call you asking you to give the relationship another chance after you follow these steps

 

Attention:  This is a general guide.  If you have any specific questions go ahead and comment them.  I do not mind helping you in anyway. 

– Aidan

The Reason Relationships End..

Why do relationships end?  “Love, with time, turns ugly”.  This quote has been used for centuries, however, it is not true.  Love will always be beautiful, it is the people who turn their relations with each other into hatred.  In my eyes there is no need for this hatred; even I have had my breakups but even now today I remain friends with all of my ex’s because there is no need to carry hatred in your heart.  [This comes from a great article http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/].  So why does something so beautiful at first have to have an end?

We live in a world where change is coming everyday.  For the first time in centuries women have the right to vote, women have the right to abort their pregnancies, women have the right to take birth control, and women are now a strong part of the workforce.  You see as time goes on, women are starting to become more masculine while men are becoming more feminine which is causing most of the break-ups in this world today.

Introducing: Male and Female Polarity (The relative orientation of poles; the direction of a magnetic or electric field) aka The Key To Lasting Attraction

The definition above maybe unclear to some.  It basically means the attraction of males and females.  As I have said before women will always be attracted to a masculine man because that trait makes women feel feminine.  The more you make her feel feminine the stronger the attraction for you will grow.

So to answer the question above: Why do most relationships end?

[For those who have dealt with being broken up with]

  • Were you acting more and more submissive in arguments?
  • Did you feel that your girlfriend had dominance over you by the way she behaved?
  • Did your girlfriend have a leash on you?
  • Did you feel controlled by your girlfriend at the time?

If you answer is yes to any of these questions you are probably realizing why you were broken up with.  Your women began to feel masculine because of the control over you that she had.  As a result, you began to feel feminine!  This opposition absolutely killed the attraction levels your girlfriend at the time had for you and thus, the relationship ended.

To avoid this, the man must assume the role he was born into.  He must be the dominant leader and by default the woman assumes the role of a follower; ultimately making her feel feminine.  There is no controlling behavior you must extend to force her into this position you simply must act as a mature, masculine man and she will automatically fall into place.  In the world we live in, masculine men are a dying breed and I’m here to repopulate the planet (:

If you have any questions or want to ask me specifically what went wrong with your previous relationship feel free to comment with your personal email and i will gladly email you (and delete your comment so you do not compromise your privacy).

Thanks for Reading!

– Aidan

Entering Into A Long Term Relationship [Boundaries are key]

If your looking for a successful relationship your already in the red zone.  It sounds counter intuitive, however, do not search; let that person find you.  All searching will do for you is let you find disappointment and no one likes that of course.  Instead of searching you need to first ask yourself a couple questions and then you will be able to sort through all of the women you meet.

1.) First question to ask yourself: What are qualities in a girl that you like/want to find..

My list would look something like this:

  • Funny
  • Likes to just go out and have a good time
  • Party girl
  • Down to earth
  • Layed back
  • Non-cheater
  • A person that is true to themselves

2.) Second question to ask yourself: Why are you searching for these qualities

My answer: I search for these qualities because this is how I am in a relationship, I am a chill boyfriend, almost care-free

3.) What are your fears of being in a relationship?

My answer: Being cheated on and being deceived

Okay so you have your list of what you want, now let that person come to you.  After they do come to you, all you have to do is act in an attractive manner.  To act in an attractive manner (we will get to these traits later) is quite simple.  Study the “Insecurity” category to know exactly what turns off women first.

How to transition into a relationship: Let the women decide that.  Trust me she will find a way.. and if your not that kind of type then go on a few dates and then just ask.. if she is willing to date you odds are she is willing to become your special someone.

After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them.  Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)

My list looks like this:

  • Lying to me
  • Cheating
  • Treating me with disrespect
  • Playing head games

Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.

These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship.  Women love to test us men.  It’s not their fault however, like i said women are attracted to behavior because their animal instinct tells them that a man that is strong emotionally is a good father.. this is why they test us.  You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section).  Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you.

Any further questions comment this post with your email and i will email you shortly.

Thanks for reading (:

-Aidan

How to apologize while keeping your dignity

Tell me if this sounds familiar:  Friday morning your boy calls you and says, ” yo man let’s hangout at the pub tonight.”  You reply with “HELL YEAH!!!”.  So now it’s Friday night your a little drunk with your buddies and your phone rings.  It’s your girlfriend.. you forgot plans you made with her just the day before.  This is where a Twix bar would really come in handy.. but with my help you don’t need time to think you just do.

First off.  Never apologize for your actions. 

Bad: “I’m so so so sorry i forgot plans with you tonight please forgive me, OH COME ON it was a mistake.”  This is a terrible way to go because your reminding her what you did and two your getting mad because she isn’t forgiving you.

Good: “O my gosh I’m so sorry, It really wasn’t my intention to make you feel like i was ditching you or something. (Disqualify yourself) Ugh I can’t believe I would forget about plans with my own girlfriend, unbelievable. I’m coming over now so we can talk, I’ll call you when i get there (hangup).”  Why is this good?  In this situation it is okay to put her needs before yours however ONLY in this instance where you royally mess up.  Notice how i didn’t really focus on what this person did, I used language that conveyed that i understood the FEELINGS she was feeling at the time.  Remember women are emotional creatures, focusing on emotions any time you feel tension in your relationship is the number one way to deal with your woman or any woman for that matter.  Secondly, you said “here I’ll come over so we can talk”.  You are showing two traits right now that are very important.  One: self confidence (you have the balls to own up to your mistake and fix it) and two: you are not asking for her approval.  Notice I didn’t say “can i come over so we can talk about it?”.  You are a man who knows what to do, a man who doesn’t need his girlfriends approval on anything(very important), but above all you need to stay calm, collective, and self-controlled when dealing with any kind of situation where you feel tension so hot in the air you could cut it with a knife..

**if you have any questions about specific fights comment below with your email and i will assist you***

So what have we learned today?  One, focus on her feelings.  Two, do not ask for approval.  Three, keep your cool at all times.

My name is Aidan Stone and you have just been SCHOOLED (:

Rules for arguing with women

Question to all bloggers and viewers… have you personally, as a man, ever won an argument with a women?

If your answer is yes, your lying your ass off.  Come on now.  When is the last time you have ever heard of a man winning an argument with his women?  Almost Never!  One of the main reasons is because when men argue their heart rate builds, veins pop out, and they go ballistic on their girl making it so easy for their women to make you look terrible.  An attractive trait; self control.  Having control over your emotions is key when battling with women.  Which brings me to rule number one.

Yes, it is literally that simple.  Raising your voice, throwing shit, breaking shit is a no no.  It will only show that you have no self control and ultimately give her the avenue to make you look terrible.  If it is something stupid; treat it as something stupid.  Look at her with a crazy stare like “is she really babbling about this?”(pretend she is a quacking duck or another funny face).  If it is something really really really stupid: Tell her you find her unattractive at the moment, because she is babbling about the silliest thing.  She will likely stop acting crazy because women are all about self-appearance (hair, make-up, etc.).  Telling her that her behavior is unattractive to you will shut her down speechless, however, if there is really something bothering her then let her vent.  But make sure it is known that you want to conduct this talk in a mature manner with no crazy yelling or things along the like involved.

  • Rule #2 If you lose your self-control SHE AUTOMATICALLY WINS

You absolutely need to control your emotions when dealing with women.  Act cool and calm at all times.  Women are emotional creatures and have  a much easier time arguing in a heightened stance (when the shit hits the fan).

  • Rule #3 Be open minded

If your girlfriend (or any women for that matter) has a really good point, do not deny or act stubborn just because you do not want to be wrong.  Be a man and admit your faults, it takes a true person to admit when they are wrong and ultimately shows character.

  • Rule #4 Focus on her emotions when arguing                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Emphasize her emotions, the way she is feeling.  Men naturally want to fix the situation because face it that’s how we are.  We see a problem, fix it.  WRONG (with dealing women anyway).  Say something like “I totally understand why your feeling that way” and continue from there.  You barely have to fix anything!  Just talk about how she is feeling at the moment.

– Aidan

***next topic: how to apologize while being a self respectable man***