Cheating…Cheater and Cheatee Guide

English: Woman, broken heart.

English: Woman, broken heart. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

First, before we get to the “how-to get out of trouble” lesson I want you to ask yourself.  If your going to be in a relationship then be in a relationship.  If your going to mess around while your with someone you could end up really hurting them.  Not only that but now you get the reputation as a player and a cheater.  Once your flagged consider yourself dateless for quite some time.  It is a very very good idea to not cheat plain and simple.

 

You cheated on your girlfriend

–  Sometimes your drunk and you make-out with a girl.  This is not that terrible although it is still cheating.  Furthermore, alcohol is NO EXCUSE to cheat on anyone.

– If any of my viewers have ever noticed… when a guy tells a girl he cheated they usually want to know if he has feelings for this new girl.  However if a guy gets cheated on they usually want to know what they did sexually…

Step one:  Amplify her feelings

Tell her straight up that you messed up and had no intention of hurting her.  Tell her that you have absolutely no feelings for this girl and even go as far to say cheating made me realize what I had and I really do not want to lose you.  Trust me these work.  Your going to be annoyed for the next couple of months (depending on the severity of the adultery) by her because women, unfortunately, take time to get over things.  Give her as long as she needs and you better be there for her every time.  Do not be selfish.. put yourself in her shoes.  What if you got cheated on ?

Your Girlfriend Cheated On You

I know this is probably not going to brighten your day but you absolutely need to break-up with her immediately.  This is one of my personal boundaries.  You need to think of cheating as a way to filter out girls that are not for you.  You deserve better than a cheating chick..

Story:

My high-school sweet-heart made me regret ever taking back someone who cheated on you.  I loved her so much that I didn’t want to lose her.  I just forgave her and basically sent the message that it was okay for her to do what she did.  She ended up breaking up with me anyway because saying that the reason she cheated was because of me.  I was crushed.  I learned my lesson that day.

 

You see women cheat because they become un-attracted to you.  When they see you crying all the time when you took them back after they cheated they become even more un-attracted to you.  By breaking up with them it sets up a much better scenario for you and puts you in control.  You can play hard to get so badly that she turns into your personal slave…  but remember you have to act cool calm and collective.  If you ignore her she will probably make fun of you for being immature.  You need to resist this, it might piss you off but you must send the message that you will not be talked to like that.

 

So remember boys DO NOT CHEAT.  It’s not worth it.

-Aidan

 

 

 

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How to apologize while keeping your dignity

Tell me if this sounds familiar:  Friday morning your boy calls you and says, ” yo man let’s hangout at the pub tonight.”  You reply with “HELL YEAH!!!”.  So now it’s Friday night your a little drunk with your buddies and your phone rings.  It’s your girlfriend.. you forgot plans you made with her just the day before.  This is where a Twix bar would really come in handy.. but with my help you don’t need time to think you just do.

First off.  Never apologize for your actions. 

Bad: “I’m so so so sorry i forgot plans with you tonight please forgive me, OH COME ON it was a mistake.”  This is a terrible way to go because your reminding her what you did and two your getting mad because she isn’t forgiving you.

Good: “O my gosh I’m so sorry, It really wasn’t my intention to make you feel like i was ditching you or something. (Disqualify yourself) Ugh I can’t believe I would forget about plans with my own girlfriend, unbelievable. I’m coming over now so we can talk, I’ll call you when i get there (hangup).”  Why is this good?  In this situation it is okay to put her needs before yours however ONLY in this instance where you royally mess up.  Notice how i didn’t really focus on what this person did, I used language that conveyed that i understood the FEELINGS she was feeling at the time.  Remember women are emotional creatures, focusing on emotions any time you feel tension in your relationship is the number one way to deal with your woman or any woman for that matter.  Secondly, you said “here I’ll come over so we can talk”.  You are showing two traits right now that are very important.  One: self confidence (you have the balls to own up to your mistake and fix it) and two: you are not asking for her approval.  Notice I didn’t say “can i come over so we can talk about it?”.  You are a man who knows what to do, a man who doesn’t need his girlfriends approval on anything(very important), but above all you need to stay calm, collective, and self-controlled when dealing with any kind of situation where you feel tension so hot in the air you could cut it with a knife..

**if you have any questions about specific fights comment below with your email and i will assist you***

So what have we learned today?  One, focus on her feelings.  Two, do not ask for approval.  Three, keep your cool at all times.

My name is Aidan Stone and you have just been SCHOOLED (: