In a post from last year I discuss boundaries that I recommend be set as early as possible:
After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them. Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)
My list looks like this:
- Lying to me
- Treating me with disrespect
- Playing head games
Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.
These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship. Women love to test us men. Women are programmed to naturally want a man that will be a good father, because of animal instincts. People neglect to realize that just because we have a large cerebral cortex compared to other animals does not mean that we are not animals too. Society will always run in an instinctual way. When women are looking for a husband they are looking for a man with dexterity. In order for a man to be a good father he must be emotionally intact, and this is why it is not their fault. You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section). Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you. Head my warning. Don’t be a B***CH.
Bouncing off of boundaries – We are going to talk about how to act during the very beginning of the relationship.
It is incredibly important that you do not hide how you really are in public and behind closed doors. It is necessary to act in your own way, and be comfortable with who you are as a person. People commonly make this mistake.
For Example: I meet this gorgeous girl, and I end up getting her number. We continue to date for a period of time, and then I decide it is time I ask her if she wants a relationship with me. From this moment on I decide to be the best boyfriend ever, and take her out to dinner at least once a week even though I can not afford to. Two months pass by and I am running out of cash. We end up not going out to dinner this weekend, but when I try to explain to my girlfriend that I can’t afford it she gets angry. She is used to being courted and dressing up for me. Next weekend the same occurs, and she starts equating this behavior as her own fault. Problems will arise.
In this scenario I made a couple of big mistakes that insure that (1) This girl will eventually break up with me (2) That I will be heart-broken and ultimately struggle with the balance of my life for some time period(t). This type of meeting happens every day, and men are continuously being put down. The funny part to all of this is that it is no ones’ fault except for the person who allowed this women to tear them down and put their life on hold. You are in control of what happens to you, and the future that you will have. Furthermore, do not EVER “decide” to be a good boyfriend. It will cause you to think and act in ways that appear needy and unattractive. Instead, you must view yourself as a man with confidence, but do not fake confidence. Women can sense it a mile away. If you are a man that is having trouble getting women, the “How to get your Ex-Girlfriend Back” teaches you exactly how to behave to increase your confidence and gives you the ability to attract women.
Next week we are going to talk about a book called “The art of Seduction” and a few key points I would like to center on. Stay tuned.