Entering Into A Long Term Relationship [Boundaries are key]

If your looking for a successful relationship your already in the red zone.  It sounds counter intuitive, however, do not search; let that person find you.  All searching will do for you is let you find disappointment and no one likes that of course.  Instead of searching you need to first ask yourself a couple questions and then you will be able to sort through all of the women you meet.

1.) First question to ask yourself: What are qualities in a girl that you like/want to find..

My list would look something like this:

  • Funny
  • Likes to just go out and have a good time
  • Party girl
  • Down to earth
  • Layed back
  • Non-cheater
  • A person that is true to themselves

2.) Second question to ask yourself: Why are you searching for these qualities

My answer: I search for these qualities because this is how I am in a relationship, I am a chill boyfriend, almost care-free

3.) What are your fears of being in a relationship?

My answer: Being cheated on and being deceived

Okay so you have your list of what you want, now let that person come to you.  After they do come to you, all you have to do is act in an attractive manner.  To act in an attractive manner (we will get to these traits later) is quite simple.  Study the “Insecurity” category to know exactly what turns off women first.

How to transition into a relationship: Let the women decide that.  Trust me she will find a way.. and if your not that kind of type then go on a few dates and then just ask.. if she is willing to date you odds are she is willing to become your special someone.

After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them.  Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)

My list looks like this:

  • Lying to me
  • Cheating
  • Treating me with disrespect
  • Playing head games

Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.

These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship.  Women love to test us men.  It’s not their fault however, like i said women are attracted to behavior because their animal instinct tells them that a man that is strong emotionally is a good father.. this is why they test us.  You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section).  Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you.

Any further questions comment this post with your email and i will email you shortly.

Thanks for reading (:

-Aidan