Getting Your Ex Back Starts the Moment You Break Up

There seems to be some misconceptions on the “How to get your ex-girlfriend back P1 & P2”.  The title is not some mumbo jumbo that I made up.  The moment you and your girlfriend break it off is the moment you need to start behaving in a different manner.  The comments I have been getting are asking me how to get the ex back when (1) It has been a month or two or (2) She is already dating someone else.  I am a cut and dry type of guy so I am just going to come out and say this.  I AM NOT A MIRACLE WORKER.  If you are still crying over an ex months later you need to reorganize yourself and your ideals.  You need to start realizing what you appear to be on the outside: how people view you.  If your ex starts dating another guy this should be a sign that you need to move on, which is the trick to getting your girlfriend back in the first place.  “Women want the man who can get over them before they do”.  This is not a joke!  You need to reassess yourself and stop worrying about what she is doing.  “Stop worrying about what other people’s actions are; the only person you can control is yourself, and sometimes you can not even control that!”.  MOVE ON AND SHE WILL COME BACK TO YOU.  Trust me.  I cannot stress this enough.  This is the type of bullshit that I am talking about with men these days.  Women are starting to take control which is why I made this blog in the first place.  This website is not for you to cry to me and beg me for a solution to a problem that does not need a solution!   Be a MAN and move on.  If you are going to comment my blog and give me a sob story you do not belong here.  Go cry to your mom if that is the type of man you are.  Instead of telling me some sob story ask me “how do I move on Aidan?”.  By moving on she will come running back to you.  It is that simple.  1.  Do not initiate contact ever (it is okay for her to contact you).  2.  Move on with your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself, because when it comes down to it YOU are the only one that has control of your destiny.  If your going to cry about every girl that breaks up with you then you will ultimately fail in life, and in relationships. 

 

Men.  I apologize for going on a rant, but the truth hurts.  It hurts for a reason, and that’s because you want to pretend that there is a way.  Well there isn’t!  Follow my instructions on how to move on and that is all.  You need to actually read what I am saying to get anything out of it.  Good luck. 

Aidan

The Reason Relationships End..

Why do relationships end?  “Love, with time, turns ugly”.  This quote has been used for centuries, however, it is not true.  Love will always be beautiful, it is the people who turn their relations with each other into hatred.  In my eyes there is no need for this hatred; even I have had my breakups but even now today I remain friends with all of my ex’s because there is no need to carry hatred in your heart.  [This comes from a great article http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/].  So why does something so beautiful at first have to have an end?

We live in a world where change is coming everyday.  For the first time in centuries women have the right to vote, women have the right to abort their pregnancies, women have the right to take birth control, and women are now a strong part of the workforce.  You see as time goes on, women are starting to become more masculine while men are becoming more feminine which is causing most of the break-ups in this world today.

Introducing: Male and Female Polarity (The relative orientation of poles; the direction of a magnetic or electric field) aka The Key To Lasting Attraction

The definition above maybe unclear to some.  It basically means the attraction of males and females.  As I have said before women will always be attracted to a masculine man because that trait makes women feel feminine.  The more you make her feel feminine the stronger the attraction for you will grow.

So to answer the question above: Why do most relationships end?

[For those who have dealt with being broken up with]

  • Were you acting more and more submissive in arguments?
  • Did you feel that your girlfriend had dominance over you by the way she behaved?
  • Did your girlfriend have a leash on you?
  • Did you feel controlled by your girlfriend at the time?

If you answer is yes to any of these questions you are probably realizing why you were broken up with.  Your women began to feel masculine because of the control over you that she had.  As a result, you began to feel feminine!  This opposition absolutely killed the attraction levels your girlfriend at the time had for you and thus, the relationship ended.

To avoid this, the man must assume the role he was born into.  He must be the dominant leader and by default the woman assumes the role of a follower; ultimately making her feel feminine.  There is no controlling behavior you must extend to force her into this position you simply must act as a mature, masculine man and she will automatically fall into place.  In the world we live in, masculine men are a dying breed and I’m here to repopulate the planet (:

If you have any questions or want to ask me specifically what went wrong with your previous relationship feel free to comment with your personal email and i will gladly email you (and delete your comment so you do not compromise your privacy).

Thanks for Reading!

– Aidan

I Don’t Care What women say…

I don’t really care what women say; naturally, they will always want to be lead by a man who makes them feel feminine.  You need to act in a way that makes your girlfriend feel feminine .

How do you do that Aidan?

Well boys and girls it’s quite simple.  Act in an “attractive manner”.  I bet you ten million dollars most guys have no idea how to treat women or behave around them. To act attractively is quite simple.

There are a total of 5 attractive traits that women, unsuspectingly to their conscious thinking, are indeed attracted to.  They are as follows:

  1. Make up your damn mind!

– Be decisive.  Knowing what you want to do with your life and going toward those goals is a turn on to women.   Take the lead in your relationship and actively take the lead.  For example, when your girlfriend asks you what do you want to do tonight you should respond with something, anything.  Lead your girlfriend.

2. Self- control

–  Maturity = Masculinity .  Maturity is all about being responsible.  In order to master this trait one must first control anger and be spontaneous or happy when dealing with life.

3. Be Assertive!

–  Your opinion is powerful, do not change your opinions to fit in with the crowd.  Believe in yourself and do not waver.  Let go of the fear of being judged by your girlfriend and speak your mind more.  Know where you stand in a conversation or on an issue but don’t be a dick about it.  Instead of looking to your girlfriend for approval (which is unattractive)  have some self validation.

4.  Modesty

– Easy way to be modest without really trying that hard is simple; do not brag about anything.  Know that you look good, know that your going to be successful, know that your girlfriend is wrapped around your finger BUT do not talk about it.  If someone compliments you just simply say thank you.  Women are attracted to the men that refuse to let others put them on a pedestal.  Remember do not brag.

5.  Ambition

–  Ever seen those axe commercials where the women jump on the male with the best scent?  That’s what ambition does to women.  Make your goals known to your significant other.  Figure out what you are passionate about in life and share it with the world (without bragging).  Trust me your girlfriend will be extremely attracted to you.

All my work so far flows together.  Like the organs in your body you cannot live without anyone of them, they work as a team to sustain your life.  These attributes put together is like sweet music floating in the air.  Your life will start to change..

Thanks for reading

-Aidan

Entering Into A Long Term Relationship [Boundaries are key]

If your looking for a successful relationship your already in the red zone.  It sounds counter intuitive, however, do not search; let that person find you.  All searching will do for you is let you find disappointment and no one likes that of course.  Instead of searching you need to first ask yourself a couple questions and then you will be able to sort through all of the women you meet.

1.) First question to ask yourself: What are qualities in a girl that you like/want to find..

My list would look something like this:

  • Funny
  • Likes to just go out and have a good time
  • Party girl
  • Down to earth
  • Layed back
  • Non-cheater
  • A person that is true to themselves

2.) Second question to ask yourself: Why are you searching for these qualities

My answer: I search for these qualities because this is how I am in a relationship, I am a chill boyfriend, almost care-free

3.) What are your fears of being in a relationship?

My answer: Being cheated on and being deceived

Okay so you have your list of what you want, now let that person come to you.  After they do come to you, all you have to do is act in an attractive manner.  To act in an attractive manner (we will get to these traits later) is quite simple.  Study the “Insecurity” category to know exactly what turns off women first.

How to transition into a relationship: Let the women decide that.  Trust me she will find a way.. and if your not that kind of type then go on a few dates and then just ask.. if she is willing to date you odds are she is willing to become your special someone.

After you have successfully entered the relationship you need to create solid boundaries and talk to her about them.  Write a list of boundaries (things that you will not put with.)

My list looks like this:

  • Lying to me
  • Cheating
  • Treating me with disrespect
  • Playing head games

Once your girlfriend knows exactly what you do not put up with in a relationship is when you have a successful foundation to your relationship.

These boundaries are not of the controlling nature (tell her that), because a controlling boyfriend is very unattractive. She must know that she is free to cross them and trust me she will at one point in time in the relationship.  Women love to test us men.  It’s not their fault however, like i said women are attracted to behavior because their animal instinct tells them that a man that is strong emotionally is a good father.. this is why they test us.  You must guard these boundaries with punishments (read the punishment section).  Women want a man with strong boundaries, if you let her cross them freely she will lose respect for you and ultimately end up breaking up with you.

Any further questions comment this post with your email and i will email you shortly.

Thanks for reading (:

-Aidan

Conflict Resolution: Be Gentle but FIRM! [punishing your girlfriend]

This post is for the times when a girlfriend starts to cross your boundaries (we will touch on this topic Sunday).  When a girlfriend tries to cross your boundaries she is disrespecting you.  Now, disrespect can mean a multitude of things (whatever that means to you).

Remember that your approval is just as powerful as your disapproval!

For little things I like to address the conflict in the following manner:

” You know, one of the things I love about you is that you are always such a sweet,

heartfelt person but as of late you have been pretty rude and disrespectful.  I didn’t

expect this out of you.”

Business of Punishment

Business of Punishment (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clean it up whatever way you like, add in other words, slang and blah blah blah.  This usually works, you will get an apology 99% of the time.

In short: You are being kind yet firm at the same time not rude in any way but dealing with the situation in a mature manner.

  1. In a relaxed and calm tone tell her what you like or admire about her
  2. Then tell her what actions/behaviors you do not like that you do not approve of (your approval is powerful)

**There will be another post tomorrow about entering a relationship before we continue on punishment***

-Aidan

Insecurity continued…and continued again

Boyfriends being controlling! (BAD)

Follow this philosophy: the tighter you clench your fists the easier she will slip out of your hands.

Controlling behavior is an absolute no no.  She is her own women just like you are your own man.  How would you feel if your girlfriend was asking where you were constantly, getting pissed off if there was even a women in the room with you, demanding you be here or leave there.  When approaching a relationship it is always best to give them absolute freedom to do whatever it is that they want to do as long as it’s nothing big that go against your boundaries (a topic for another day).  In fact, guys that act this way will most likely end up being broken heart-ed because a healthy women (one not crazy and has some self respect) would not put up with that!  (psshh i know i wouldn’t).  So remember **** Give your women (any women in a relationship with you) absolute freedom to do whatever it is that she wants to do.******  If she messes up while under the absolute freedom approach that’s fine… think of it as cycling through the bitches and tell yourself (look in the mirror if you have to) that there is someone else better out there.  I know right? hard to believe that there are a million other women out there…not

– Aidan