How To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back P2

Trust me When I Say:  It is good to let it out.  Mature Masculine Men know when to cry, when to laugh, and when to love.  Talk to a friend, or listen to music that speaks to you.  This song speaks to me… Your not alone, I promise. 

Hello, welcome to relationshiphelpformen.com.  Today we are going to go a little more in depth on the topic of  “How To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back”, a topic that I consider to be my expertise.  Getting your ex-girlfriend back, however, is not the only thing I am concerned with.  One of the attributes I want you to gain and take advantage of during this break-up period is the feeling of what it is like to be independent.  If you learn to be strong over this period there will be no break-up in the future that will “bring you down”.  Of course there will always be sadness in any break-ups you have had; learning how to be independent  will give you resilience.  Your life will not completely shut down, just because of a broken heart (much like a lot of people). This has personally been one of the hardest times in my life.  When I was in 10th grade I met the most beautiful girl and immediately fell for her.  We ended up dating all the way until my senior year(she left me for someone else).  I was crushed.  During high school I was a little bit weird.  I played trombone (concert, jazz), played in football, wrestling, and track, and was a 4.0 student.  My senior year was the worst year of my entire life.  I prayed everyday for graduation because I couldn’t focus anymore.  I went from being 12th in my class to 25th… my grades suffered, I quit every sport.  It was terrible.  However, I took advantage of this experience and learned how to be stronger.  After high school I attended Lehigh University and was back to the me I remembered.  [Moral of the Story]As you can see break-ups can destroy people’s lives IF THEY LET THAT HAPPEN.

Today I am going to go a little more in depth on the first part of the break-up: what to do first, how to deal with it.  You see, immediately after the break-up you have begun to “get her back”.  This is all about how you behave boys.  Remember women want a mentally strong man to take care of their animal instinct issues.  If she breaks up with you hard (you know what I mean) cut off all contact.

Remove her from every social networking site, email, instant messaging, skype… anything.  Only exception is facebook.  If she blocks you that’s fine too.. trust me she is going to be looking at your facebook.

Write her number down somewhere and completely forget about it.  Then delete her number from your phone.  If you have memorized this number that is okay, still delete her number from your phone.

You MUST RESIST the urge to call her, text her, go to her work, anything.  You absolutely must follow the “No Contact” Rule.  I recommend to most people that all they have to do is follow this rule and usually I’m right!   By not contacting her you are showing her that you are okay with the break-up.  You are making her think “Well maybe he got a new girl”  (This could take up to 3 weeks of no contact).  Once she reaches this point of jealous thinking she will begin to feel lonely.  She will want to talk to you in the worst way.  This is when she will likely look at your facebook because she is wondering what your doing without her.  Women actually believe (and want) that you should be crying for days, they want you to be miserable as sad as it is.  When your not showing that your upset, and express that your moving on just fine from the break-up they usually feel a rush of attraction towards you again.  Which is why she broke-up with you to begin with.  Other reasons she might break-up with you : cheating, controlling behavior, yelling at her which we will talk about later.

Now, what NOT to do with your facebook account in a nut shell.

– Don’t be a prick

–  Do not purposely come up with these status’s about how many girls your with, partying, how many girls your banging.  We just want to make her jealous, not extremely pissed that your having sex with millions of girls.

–  Now it is completely appropriate and required of you to flirt with other women.  Flirt in real life, and on facebook.  It will boost your self-confidence.  Just act friendly, do not blatantly act like your TRYING to make your ex jealous.  Just act as if she is a friend.

–  NO SAD STATUS’S.. PERIOD

–  You need to appear that you are okay.  To do this you just post status’s of you having normal fun (not so much partying, or having sex, or doing drugs).  A good way to make her jealous is to go out to breakfast with 3 girls and one other dude.  Post who your with and where your going and your SOLID.  Your implying them as friends so when she eventually calls you and asks what you were doing you just say “they are just friends”.  She doesn’t control you, you can do whatever the heck you want to.

The Next step is previously listed in the How To Get Your Ex Back category.  Follow this guide http://relationshiphelpformen.com/2012/05/25/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back/

What If She Does Not Contact You? 

This is not very common but if you have to contact your girlfriend first here is what you have to do.

Step 1:  Call her, Write her a letter, contact her.

Step 2: After you have reached her, just act cool, calm, and completely okay with the break-up.  I think you should even go as far as to tell her that.  “I think this break-up was for the best, but I don’t want to lose you as a friend.  We used to be good friends, and I want to remain on good terms with you.”  You don’t have to say this exactly but you get the idea.

Step 3:  If you talked to her in a friendly manner and no sexual intentions were implied then you can now successfully swoop in under her scope as a “friend”.

The Finish Line. 

Now after you have followed http://relationshiphelpformen.com/2012/05/25/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back/ you can just be chill.  Remain cool, calm , and collective at all times.  Let her do all the work.. let her chase you.  Your in control now.  If she doesn’t call you be patient.  Women don’t want to seem desperate by calling you back the next day.. Everything should be okay if you have followed the rules and steps I have outlined.   Good luck to you, I know you can do it.  Remember You Are A Dominant Man.. make her feel like a women.

 

– Aidan

 

 

I Don’t Care What women say…

I don’t really care what women say; naturally, they will always want to be lead by a man who makes them feel feminine.  You need to act in a way that makes your girlfriend feel feminine .

How do you do that Aidan?

Well boys and girls it’s quite simple.  Act in an “attractive manner”.  I bet you ten million dollars most guys have no idea how to treat women or behave around them. To act attractively is quite simple.

There are a total of 5 attractive traits that women, unsuspectingly to their conscious thinking, are indeed attracted to.  They are as follows:

  1. Make up your damn mind!

– Be decisive.  Knowing what you want to do with your life and going toward those goals is a turn on to women.   Take the lead in your relationship and actively take the lead.  For example, when your girlfriend asks you what do you want to do tonight you should respond with something, anything.  Lead your girlfriend.

2. Self- control

–  Maturity = Masculinity .  Maturity is all about being responsible.  In order to master this trait one must first control anger and be spontaneous or happy when dealing with life.

3. Be Assertive!

–  Your opinion is powerful, do not change your opinions to fit in with the crowd.  Believe in yourself and do not waver.  Let go of the fear of being judged by your girlfriend and speak your mind more.  Know where you stand in a conversation or on an issue but don’t be a dick about it.  Instead of looking to your girlfriend for approval (which is unattractive)  have some self validation.

4.  Modesty

– Easy way to be modest without really trying that hard is simple; do not brag about anything.  Know that you look good, know that your going to be successful, know that your girlfriend is wrapped around your finger BUT do not talk about it.  If someone compliments you just simply say thank you.  Women are attracted to the men that refuse to let others put them on a pedestal.  Remember do not brag.

5.  Ambition

–  Ever seen those axe commercials where the women jump on the male with the best scent?  That’s what ambition does to women.  Make your goals known to your significant other.  Figure out what you are passionate about in life and share it with the world (without bragging).  Trust me your girlfriend will be extremely attracted to you.

All my work so far flows together.  Like the organs in your body you cannot live without anyone of them, they work as a team to sustain your life.  These attributes put together is like sweet music floating in the air.  Your life will start to change..

Thanks for reading

-Aidan

Rules for arguing with women

Question to all bloggers and viewers… have you personally, as a man, ever won an argument with a women?

If your answer is yes, your lying your ass off.  Come on now.  When is the last time you have ever heard of a man winning an argument with his women?  Almost Never!  One of the main reasons is because when men argue their heart rate builds, veins pop out, and they go ballistic on their girl making it so easy for their women to make you look terrible.  An attractive trait; self control.  Having control over your emotions is key when battling with women.  Which brings me to rule number one.

Yes, it is literally that simple.  Raising your voice, throwing shit, breaking shit is a no no.  It will only show that you have no self control and ultimately give her the avenue to make you look terrible.  If it is something stupid; treat it as something stupid.  Look at her with a crazy stare like “is she really babbling about this?”(pretend she is a quacking duck or another funny face).  If it is something really really really stupid: Tell her you find her unattractive at the moment, because she is babbling about the silliest thing.  She will likely stop acting crazy because women are all about self-appearance (hair, make-up, etc.).  Telling her that her behavior is unattractive to you will shut her down speechless, however, if there is really something bothering her then let her vent.  But make sure it is known that you want to conduct this talk in a mature manner with no crazy yelling or things along the like involved.

  • Rule #2 If you lose your self-control SHE AUTOMATICALLY WINS

You absolutely need to control your emotions when dealing with women.  Act cool and calm at all times.  Women are emotional creatures and have  a much easier time arguing in a heightened stance (when the shit hits the fan).

  • Rule #3 Be open minded

If your girlfriend (or any women for that matter) has a really good point, do not deny or act stubborn just because you do not want to be wrong.  Be a man and admit your faults, it takes a true person to admit when they are wrong and ultimately shows character.

  • Rule #4 Focus on her emotions when arguing                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Emphasize her emotions, the way she is feeling.  Men naturally want to fix the situation because face it that’s how we are.  We see a problem, fix it.  WRONG (with dealing women anyway).  Say something like “I totally understand why your feeling that way” and continue from there.  You barely have to fix anything!  Just talk about how she is feeling at the moment.

– Aidan

***next topic: how to apologize while being a self respectable man***

Women DO NOT want a little puppy to take care of.

Today we are going to talk about a two things: Approval seeking behaviors and putting your girlfriend high up there (on a pedestal)

  • Approval seeking

Constantly asking your girlfriend if this is okay, or if that is okay is a big no no.  You are a man with your own problems and should be able to take care of your own conflicts.  One of the most attractive traits of a masculine man is to be Self-assured.  To be self-assured is to not compromise your own opinions to fit in.  Believe in the power of your own opinions and protect them.  Being externally validation savvy is a big red flag to women.  It shows them that you have low self esteem (confidence).  Women want a man who is self-reliant, once again going back to the animal instinct: women are attracted to a man who would be a good care-giver for their child (they do not consciously think this, however, this is what they are attracted to).

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  • Putting your girlfriend high up there (on a pedestal)

Women want a man with his own needs, his own responsibilities besides them.  If you put your girlfriend ahead of your needs she will lose respect for you and ultimately break up with you because of loss of attraction.  You want to show your girlfriend that you have shit to get done too.  You really like her, however, being in a relationship does not mean losing touch with the world (friends, jobs, responsibilities).   Furthermore, putting your girlfriend on a pedestal will make you become to emotionally involved, and eventually when she brings down the hammer you will be crushed.  Not putting your girlfriend on a pedestal protects you from being extremely broken heart-ed to the point where your life gets put on hold.

-Aidan

***next topic is arguing, learning what to do and what not to do.***

Insecurtiy continued…

Jealousy

  • Jealousy stems from a place of insecurity.  If you act jealous because your girlfriend gives another guy a hug or even says hello (like most crazy boyfriends) she will start to lose respect for you.  Now you can’t blame her because society runs on an animal instinct and they always will.  Ever wonder why you, as a man, find a women’s ass or breasts attractive?  It is because your animal instinct tells you that this would be a good women to mate with.  Men are attracted to beauty while women for the most part are attracted to a man’s behavior.  You see, it takes a strong (both physically and mentally) man to raise a child, and this is what women search for.  So how should you act in a way that both rids you of insecurity (i.e. jealousy)?  One of the most important mentalities to have is to think to yourself “all men just make me look good”.  Your women will be impressed at the fact that you have no problem with her talking to other guys (there is no amount of bitching you can do to get her to stop talking to the opposite sex).  It ultimately shows your self-confident enough to let her do what she wants and know that she will come back to you (which she always will).  If she wanted other guys so bad she would be with them so don’t waste your time thinking that by letting her talk to other guys she will automatically cheat on you.  Just act cool, calm and collective.  If your out in public and she sees a guy she knows introduce yourself if she hasn’t, shake his hand and say nice to meet you.  Doing all of this just makes you look better and letting her talk to other guys throughout the relationship will just make you look way better in the long wrong.

– Aidan